What is: A Ruined Orgasm?

Author's note: I'm going to regret posting this, I'm sure of it.

For those of you into tease and denial, this may be old-hat. For those of you NOT into T&D, this may be something that you have never played with.

Go have fun. Make your sub suffer.

Ruined orgasms are something especially common in male chastity, where the male (but really anyone) is stimulated *just* to the brink of orgasm, and then all stimulation is ceased. This can result in extreme frustration for the recipient, and even if fluid comes out (precum, some semen, a mix…), there is no feeling of relief.

In other words, the release valve is turned, but the pleasure button never gets pressed. No satisfaction hormones are released, the arousal is never satisfied, and s/he remains on the edge.

Ruined orgasms are NOT edging, though edging can be used as part of ruining someones orgasm.

If you’re a particularly cruel Dom/me, this can be the end of play. If you’re even crueler, it can be the point where your male is put back into chastity, giving his prostate some relief without satisfying his needs. Basically, you’re draining his balls.

From a control standpoint, Dom/mes can use ruined orgasms to ensure their submissive remains that way, and is always responsive to their desires.

For males, there are benefits to a ruined orgasm, however. He can, for instance, get hard again with almost no refractory period. This may be used to counter premature ejaculation and allow him to last longer in bed. Some people on the internet (not that you should trust people on the internet) report erections lasting hours this way.

In a chastity relationship, the male can remain on edge this way and get truly desperate after a period of time. Some Dom/mes keep their pets on edge for weeks, or months using ruined orgasms. In fact, many Dom/mes choose to restrain their submissive while ruining because the male will do anything to achieve that pleasure.

After a while they will agree to anything, often begging for mercy.

Dom/mes may further use the promise of pleasure to get the male to do humiliating and degrading things, things that they would not normally do under other circumstances.

Eating their own cum, for instance, or wearing women's panties.

Ruined orgasms are a great way to break your partner’s will over time.

Ruining an orgasm takes practice. The timing has to be just right, the Dom/me has to read body language, and know when to stop. After a few successful ones, be prepared for the submissive to cry or otherwise break down, whether from desperation or the sheer overwhelming force of needing to have that pleasure button hit.

Have you ever ruined your partner’s orgasm? Are you a Top who uses orgasm control to train your sub? Have you ever broken someone this way?

Let me know in the comments below.